We’ve all gotten the note when we were kids. It usually went something like this:
Do you like me?
And typically we got something like this back:
I got a lot of these:
X Maybe Hell No
LOL But anyway…
I think as kids, we had the right idea. We didn’t play around when it came down to dating. It was put all out there from the beginning. If you got a note, there was no mistaking what time it was. If we sat next to each other during lunch, or our mats were next to each other during nap time, then we were together.
But as we got older the nuances of male-female, or female-female, or male-male, or Animal- Human (Or whatever you’re into. We don’t judge here at the Cool Table you nasty mutha…) have changed.
Somehow a person coming to ask you for your number at the club, or you going on date with a person, no longer automatically means the person is interested. But we all know it really does. Somehow we have tricked ourselves into thinking that dating is this complicated social process in which every word and every phrase is over-thought.
“I just want to be friends,” no longer means that to people. We say that, and then we proceed to have friendly sex… Leaving both parties forever confused.
Then there is the opposite. We go out on a date, and the date is riddled with awkward moments without clear signals of how you two should proceed.
Well, I think we need to go back to the days of elementary. Say what you want about kids, but they got this dating stuff down to an exact science.
I write a note, we get together, we figure out it’s not going to work by recess, and we are dating someone new by the next day…LOL
Well we can’t go back to elementary, so what is a person to do?
In comes Online Dating.
I know what you’re thinking, and I have my reservations too. But I had a friend ask me about the idea of online dating. I suppose my issue came from the idea that the internet is where crazy people go to find their next victim. But in reality, we run the same risk as we do if we meet someone in public.
To be honest, when you really think about it though, this type of dating actually solves the problem. It is the electronic “do you like me” note.
You put yourself out there, and someone contacts you to let you know they are interested (They check yes). If you don’t get contacted by people (They are checking no) then you don’t have to deal with the rejection face to face. And best of all, there are no “maybes” here. You go out with no one, and go on to save having the slightest thought that this is just a “friendly date”. All intentions are known up front, and if doesn’t work out then you’re back on the prowl.
I’ll be honest. I’m not bold enough to jump online and pimp myself out yet. But I can’t knock anyone who does. At least they are going for what they want.
So what say you? Is Online Dating okay? Is it the grown-up form of the Elementary Note? Is it just as efficient?