So you are at work, and Jimmy the office “nice guy” comes over to say good morning. This is probably the hardest part of your day. Now Jimmy’s a good guy, but you’re just not attracted to him. And he usually lingers a little too long when he hugs you. Well one day Jimmy takes your kind hug as his entry into trying something a little further. Maybe he decides to tell you, “you look really nice” or “he wants to take you on a date”. Now if you are a rational creature you will tell him politely no and hopefully it doesn’t ruin the office place acquaintance. Or you could be crazy as a loon and call sexual harassment on him.
Then you have Kent. Kent is the office Brad Pitt/Hottie/Slut. Well one night you and Kent are working late and he decides he’s going to try to have his way with you. Next thing you know, the copy machine is taking full color photos of your neither region.
Now how is it that possible that two of your co-workers can approach in two different ways and get inexplicable results? One guy almost gets a face full of pepper spray while being respectful and the other gets a chance to make a fond memory at the copy machine by treating you like dirt.
Well it’s a little thing I like to call the Attraction-Harassment scale.
Note: Don’t try to take it. It’s already copyrighted.
There is basically an inverse relationship between how attracted you are to a person and how you gauge their actions towards you.
In other words… The uglier a person is to you, the less you will let them get away with.
It is derived from the Crazy-Hot scale from the show How I Met Your Mother?. I love that show. Barney Stinson for President!
You see it all the time in your daily life…
1. Regular dude sends a drink. Girl takes it and pays him no mind. Rich guy sends a bottle. Girl goes home with rich guy.
2. Girl attracted to a guy plays hard to get, and guy engages her in said game. Girl not attracted to guy “pursuing” claims he’s a bug-a-boo/stalker.
So give me an example of your Attraction-Harassment episodes. Do you think the scale is right?