BOUGIE
The other day, I was having a conversation with some friends about Scotch. One friend mentioned he had bought a cheaper scotch, and then bought a more expensive aged brand that he said basically made the other scotch taste like Heaven’s Hill. And if you been broke and in college , you know what Heaven’s Hill is… Or Maybe Quality House was your cup of tea! Anyway… Another friend chimed in and basically said that people buy things like 10 year old Scotch because they want to be seen, not because they actually like it. And to some extent I can agree with him. But on the other hand I do a lot of bougie stuff because I like it… Things such as going to nice restaurants, staying in nice hotel rooms, etc. The other side to it is things that cost more are better. This may be true to an extent, but not always. But trust me there is a difference between Grey Goose and Moonshine. There is a difference between the Motel 6 and the W. So I have to ask you guys: When are you being bougie for the sake of being bougie, and when are you doing it because you like or it’s just better? Here are some rules for me:
1. If you don’t like it but you buy it anyway, you’re being bougie. I smoked a cigar the other day. And I hated it. (I think anybody that gets to the point of even being a smoker has some serious psychological issues.) But I was in an atmosphere where that’s what people did. They smoked expensive cigars. So I had to have me an expensive cigar wit my bougie butt.
2. If you have to tell everybody you doing it, you are being bougie. A person truly comfortable with themselves will never have to flaunt the fact that they have something nice. Wit yo’ bougie butt.
3. When you buy the more expensive brand even when the cheaper brand is the same. I have found supermarket brand is okay for me. Great Value & Equate will suffice. So stop buying the expensive stuff. Wit yo’ shopping, bougie butt!!!
4. When you only open yourself up to one kind of culture. I can just as easily be seen listening to Lil’ Wayne and playing spades drinking a beer as I can be seen drinking wine at an art gallery opening. Stop taking yourself too seriously… Wit yo’ drunk, bougie butt!!!
That’s all I got. What about you? Any other ways to know you are bougie and not just enjoying yourself? Do you have any stories of you or someone else acting bougie and you felt like slapping the bougie out of them? Let me know.
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When you try to keep up. Actually, that’s not being bougie. That’s just being dumb! In the opening to Real Housewives of ATL (Yeah, I watch it… and?), Nene says that she doesn’t try to keep up with the Jones’ b/c she is the Jones’! Yet… her house was foreclosed on. Hmmmm…
I have a love/hate relationship with “bougieness”, in that I like certain things that some would call being bougie, but I don’t like it exactly for the same reasons “bougie” people like them.
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A nice suit. I’m not concerned with who made the suit from a designer standpoint, but I do like the cut, fit and adaptability of them and how they fit my body type. Possibly those suits may just happen to be made by certain designers.
As Trilli mentioned, restaurants. I like some “bougie” restaurants, but not necessarily the food & drinks, but more so for the ambiance and potentially hot women. Plus, they’re usually overpriced with half the amount of food with added visual theatrics (SMDH).
I don’t know, alot of things people seem to call bougie is in part just being a grown @ss person with experiences or a desire to step outside your confort zone.
Lol, SC don’t feel bad yo, I watch RHOA too…mainly for Lisa, but the rest of the cast do make me laugh.
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Ha! Lisa is definitely a good look!
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Yeah she is…
nice blog and good list!
I agree with it, I also like nice restaurants for ambiance and because I’m a foodie on the low low and like to try new things. I like nice hotels because I like things to “look nice” and I have a strong sense of smell–can’t stay in musty motels unless its absolutely necessary and I WON’T like it. lol. #2 probably irks me the most about people. #3, I will get my great value on for bleach and sandwich bags, but some things gotta be name brand, like cereal and toilet tissue. lol
I think most people have their bougie “moments”. I also have my hood and country moments–I pretty much think I’m a well rounded individual, I dabble in a bit of everything and am relatable to all. lol
I am a firm believer in life, you get what you pay for. If you want to have a nice buzz without the sickness, you would choose Patron over Mad Dog 20/20. But when bouginess becomes a problem is when you try to act like bouginess is in your budget, when in fact it is not ( You buying bottles on Friday but getting a pay day loan from the check cashing place on Monday). What gives bouginess a bad name is the bad acting that often comes with it.